Scars are Sacred

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April 25, 2012 by Miss Bri
Posted in Open Petition to the Universe, Spirituality

gorgeous scar healing by velvet android 

 

I was talking with a dear one this weekend about issues-you know, mommy issues, daddy issues, high school issues, personality issues-all of the stuff that the self-help folks encourage us to address, all of the stuff that we carry around while promising ourselves that we are going to deal with it and heal from it at some vague point in the future.

And I had a crazy idea…what if…we are really ok? Just as we are? Perfect in our imperfections.

I don’t mean that we don’t, all of us, have our stuff–of course we do. But what I do mean is that the standards of measurement for what is & is not normal, average, ok, acceptable might be really off, and that secondly, even if we are broken in some deep way, there is a beauty and grace in being broken too.

In fact, sometimes being broken is the only way that the richest, best, most honest and also most vulnerable part of ourselves can be brought to the surface, enriching our lives and the lives of those around us with its deep ichor.

For many of us we carry around a sense of all the things we are not, can’t do, have not accomplished-even if we are not part of one of the big three Monotheistic religions, the idea of original sin, and of us all being born into a fallen state has influenced this thinking to the point where too many of us feel irredeemable and would not know where to look for redemption even if it was a concept we accepted. We don’t focus on what our unique talents, abilities, dreams, pleasures, and joys are…instead we engage in the never-ending cycle of self improvement.

Now, I definitely possess a can-do attitude, I am a problem solver by nature and affinity, and I don’t think that there is enlightenment to be found in chosen or created suffering-in short I do not advocate anyone staying in a place of victimhood or reveling in the wounds that we all of us have experienced-but I also suggest we be honest and kinder to ourselves. We are all flawed, all scarred.

Flaws are interesting-the create breadth and depth where before there was narrow shallowness, scars are sacred-and become the toughest parts of ourselves.

What is instead of trying to constantly fix, upkeep, and improve we started running, playing, jumping, and enjoying life right now, just as it is in all of its sweet glory?

Blessings,

 

 

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15 responses to “Scars are Sacred”

  1. Bri!! I always just *melt* when I read your posts….

    This:

    a) touches me right where I am in this moment today… I keep beating myself up about not knowing enough code to really dig into the website design/creation process like i want to and “should” be able to do…. and beating myself up because I don’t have “the right” credentials to do what I want to do with My Mosaic Life (no psych degree from a fancy school, no coaching cert, etc..). This reminds me that I’m good enough as I am & in fact am uniquely qualified to talk about what I talk about BECAUSE of my life experiences, and my scars. Gorgeous.

    b) this reminds me of you ‘bloom where you’re planted’ post, where you talk about blooming RIGHT NOW rather than waiting for the perfect circumstances, which never come anyway.

    girl you are on fire. it’s like you’re reaching out and talking directly TO and WITH me, and i love it <3

  2. Angel! I love hearing that my words & thoughts are reaching out to you right now-that is exactly what I want-My Mosaic life is a *beautiful* and awesome site–you are blooming big time!

  3. Yay Bri we are enough… we are perfect “as is” not to be shoved on some discount table. Thank you for putting this into beautiful words. I tell my little guy that scars are more shiny than regular skin because they are special like diamonds. Shine on!

  4. I like to think of myself as “divinely imperfect”. What you call scars, I call mistakes… and both are sacred, because both are learning experiences that makes a person both stronger and more open. I loved this post!

  8. Thanks Hillary-so glad that it spoke to you, I love the phrase “divinely imperfect”

  11. Are we on the same page this week or what, my gorgeous Bri?! Yes.. yes.. strong at our broken places, it’s so often where we are the most powerful and unique and already-enough. And yet we usually need others to mirror that back to us as it’s so hard sometimes to see it for ourselves..so thanks for the vision clearing.
    Love to you and your beautiful heart-
    Lisa
    http://www.Intuitivebody.com
    Simple Sacred Solutions For Living Beautifully In Your Body

  12. My favorite part: “scars…become the toughest part of ourselves.” Amen to that.

    I’m a huge fan of portrait/art photography, and some of my favorite photos show “broken”, “old,” or “damaged” bodies. The wrinkles on the old lady, the gnarly dancer’s feet, etc. They tell a story, and they show perseverance and recovery and that life goes on in spite of them (sometimes because of them).

    Brilliant and insightful, Bri – as always.

  13. I totally agree with you here 100%! May I just say that this post is so inspiring. We have to be proud of our scars as they signify the struggles we surpassed, that also mean that we are a fighter. Scars mean that we have healed and survived. Your scar is beautiful, and so are you. xoxo

  14. Beautiful post and I can totally relate. I have what’s known as “skinny cellulite.” I am not overweight and have tried for many years to fix this issue but at 46 yrs old I can now look in the mirror and see my legs and not cringe with disgust but embrace with grace and say “SO F– WHAT!?!! Bring it on! I love myself, I love my life and yep, I LOVE my cellulite! No one ever said beautiful meant perfect. lol ~♥~

  15. Oh man, I LOVE this! Yes, yes, yes – I so agree! You are gorgeous and perfect just as you are! Beautiful post!