May Can’t & Won’t Blaze the Trail to DONE


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Dear Miracles,

When I was born I had a severe cleft pallet.

It was the worst that my 70 year old surgeon (who had pioneered the preferred method of treatment at the time) had seen in the course of his practice. Through the dedication of my mom, dad, and grandparents I was taken to Houston (a 3.5 hour drive) for two major surgeries before I was 4 years old. Then I was taken several times a month for six more years for speech therapy. I had excellent therapists but I remember them telling my mom that I would probably never regain my speech 100%-that the “r” sound in particular would be difficult if not impossible for me to master. I practiced trilling my r’s all the way back home to San Antonio, and when we got in the house I asked my mom to call the therapist. She got on the phone and I trilled away singing out words like “red”, “radio”, and “ready.” Prognosis: my r’s were locked and loaded, my speech was 100% recovered and I had a vocabulary surpassing my age. I was 6 at the time.

When I chose to attend a funky (and insanely rigorous) liberal arts college I was told I would graduate with an Mrs. degree and no job prospects. Four years later and single, I did graduate, entered a master’s program, and shortly thereafter landed my first dream job–all because I attended that funky liberal arts college and got that “meaningless” degree in philosophy.

In my mid-twenties an astrologer did a natal chart for me. He told me that I would never have more than a lower middle class income and my writing would never see the light of day. Four years later I brought home a six figure salary, started a business, moved across the country, had a child, and in all my spare time contributed to highly visible magazines, books, and websites. I also found a much better astrologer.

I have trusted friends & advisors and when they tell me to steer clear of something I listen. I do not go against the grain just for the sake of disagreeing or proving a point (too much wasted energy) but one of my first lessons in life was that Can’t & Won’t can be powerful motivators and allies-clearing the way to DONE.

There is nothing especially special about me or my story. I have met hundreds, thousands of people in my life who tell similar tales. The challenge that had to be met, the imperative that was to be denied, the obstacles that were there to be overcome–this is a story that belongs to ALL of us. As many of you know, a petition is a prayer, a heart and tear soaked request, a mantra, an affirmation, a wish meant for your soul and the Universe.

My petition for you today: May Can’t & Won’t Blaze the Way to Done.








16 responses to “May Can’t & Won’t Blaze the Trail to DONE

  1. Ohhhh Bri.. how I desperately needed this today. I think that my petition was to come across the perfect reminder, because THIS WAS IT!

    I was always told growing up that I was just gonna be a statistic based on growing up with a single mother in a lower middle class (just barely) setting. While I did get pregnant very young, I managed to put myself through school full-time (to come out with a degree in Computer Networking) while working full time to support myself & my daughter.

    I was told that there was no way I was gonna be able to leave my well-paying job to go out on my own and do my own thing.. but here I am.

    The great thing about the timing is that I’ve been getting so down in myself and questioning wether I should go for a part-time job to get some cash rolling in. I asked the Universe for a sign, just last night. One that I could not miss. I feel that your blog post is my response.

    Not only am i super impressed with what you’ve done, chicky, I’m super grateful that you shared all of the above with the rest of us <3

  2. I was always told by my parents that I would probably never get married and would be a secretary. (They didn’t think I was attractive I guess.)

    Well, I have never had a shortage of romantic adventures, I have the best husband in the world, and I am an entrepreneur. LOL Guess they were wrong!

    I was also told by an ex boss when I started my career that I would fail. I’m still going 20 years later – and his business failed within 3 years of his “prediction”.

    I love proving people wrong!
    You rock, my dear,

  3. Miss Bri on said:

    Angel! Its yours! Feel free to write your own petition-place it in a visible place and pray/chant/dance (whatever works!) on a regular basis!
    I think we *all* have these stories-we have all overcome our own personal odds and demons-but sometimes someone can say something callous and it can really floor you-here is to letting it motivate and inspire!

  4. Miss Bri on said:

    I love your stories-and of course the boss failed at prediction-didn’t he know that was *your* calling?!

  5. Claire on said:

    Oh wow Bri that post was awesome! I loved it and feel so uplifted. In the past I’ve hated when people tell me I Can’t or Won’t do something and it does make me more determined to prove them wrong, yet some part of me gets scared that maybe they are right, that they know better than I do. Thank you for giving me the permission and confidence to trust myself and to enjoy proving them wrong when I get it done!

  6. This needs a LOVE button. Wow. What a powerful, powerful message. I salute you for each and every accomplishment you’ve achieved. And for finding a new astrologer.

    And I seek to embody May Can’t & Won’t Blaze the Way to Done.


  7. Dear Bri,
    love your warrior spirit! We are indeed charting our own path. My petition is that we walk this path with love, realizing that even if our paths are different, we are all going to the same place, home. Ashe!

  8. LOVE this post!!! It is so inspiring.

    I’ve never let people tell me what I can and can’t do…and when I have found myself in a situation where someone is trying to limit me in some way I know that it is always about them and their fear.

    I guess my petition would be to Always be in a place of perfect alignment with my choices.

  9. Miss Bri on said:

    Thank you Claire! I am so glad that these thoughts spoke to you and uplifted you :-)

  10. Miss Bri on said:

    Thank you Marita! And yes, finding a new astrologer was essential!

  11. Miss Bri on said:

    What a beautiful petition Marjory. I have never thought of myself as a warrior woman, but after reading your comment and then going back over the post I see what you mean!

  12. Miss Bri on said:

    Perfect Alignment with my choices-what a simple+beautiful thought for the day!

  13. Ashley Robinson on said:

    I’ve heard my fair share of “you can’t” and “you won’t” and I never realized how much of a motivator it was in my life. Thank you for making me realize how much positive power I have and will continue to generate from those doubts. Your story was amazing and I hope my accomplishments live up to the inspiration yours have provided!

  14. Miss Bri on said:

    Thank you Ashley for your so kind words! I think we all have amazing stories, we all have amazing successes to share, I look forward to hearing about yours!

  15. Daniela on said:

    Dear Miss Bri,

    Like always I love all your inspiring and uplifting newsletters. But this one I found very enlighten since everybody has that one person who is telling us “this wont or cant work.
    I’ve learned through my years on this planet if you believe in it with all your heart and keep visualize it really will happen.

    I had no idea what you were going through but even more fascinated how successful you have become.

    Many Blessings

  16. Most of my “can’t” and “won’t” comments come from a dark, icky spot in my own head — and still they end up as motivators! To me, the “done” is even more satisfying when it’s been forged in the fires of doubt.

    This is a great post, and I love hearing more about the story behind the story. :-)