Define your End Game

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In both spiritual counseling and magical circles one often hears that “its the journey and not the destination that matters.

Truth: I totally don’t find the above helpful when it comes to BIG LIFE STUFF.

Why do you do what you do?

The ancient Greeks’ had a word, telos. One translation: “for the sake of which”, as in, I do this work for the sake of…you are the one who fills in the blank here. Maybe you do it for the money, maybe you do it for love, for family, for bread on the table and flowers in the garden. You get to choose your destination, your for-the-sake-of-which, but you have to choose and articulate where it is the you are fundamentally headed to.

The point being that while the journey may be the means through which we learn, the destination is the reason why we took off in the first place. Its important to know where you are going.

I think that because our destinations can and often do change, we have encouraged a culture where we often try to forget about them all together, we focus on process in part because process has been ignored during times in our collective history and in part because process is where most of us stay for a long time, the journey is where the work is done and because of this it is a bright & vital part of our experience. But this forgetting of our end, our final destination, is a deadly forgetting because knowing why you do what you do:

  • crystalizes your intention
  • illuminates dark corners of your work & motivation you might otherwise ignore
  • breathes space & clarity into your work
  • keeps you focused on your telos, your for-the-sake-of-which, your endgame
  • allows you to cull & cut out all of the stuff you do that is not in line with your telos
  • Creates manifested results-on time, swiftly, & profoundly

 

Ritualists, conjure workers, and mages from all walks know that magic begins with clear intention, a wise petition, a heart felt prayer…and each of those things contain the seed of the destination, that which through one’s art & magic might manifest.

So…today my petition for you is to make a little magic in your own life, define your telos, & tell us about your end game-why do you do what you do?

 

 

16 responses to “Define your End Game

  1. Oh, Bri! I so needed to read this very thing today!! I laughed out loud and then started nodding vigorously, remembering my own end game and why I choose to show up for my sacred work, day after day. Thank you for being you!! xoxo

  2. I completely understand the idea of enjoying the journey, of savoring every step and every moment because that is part of the value of having a destination. You are right though, because it sometimes becomes a reason to forget what the destination was, as though it didn’t really matter. I do what I do because I do want to arrive somewhere at some point while enjoying the journey as I go. The journey and the arrive at the destination are equally important.

  3. Don’t you love those words in other languages that say it so simply? and to translate it takes a whole sentence in English? :/

    I appreciate how you say it like it is. How you give me permission to change course when necessary. The only thing that consistently is, is change.

    However, I am here, as are you, to make a difference. And, we’re both doing a good job at it!

  4. I had to laugh out loud too when I read the first bit. I recently had a chat with a lady I know from a networking event. She said: “You can get there, but it will be tough and hard work and you will want to cry.”
    I was so taken aback and I have heard this in so many guises over time, that I went: I am sick and tired of my life being hard and tough and the cyring, I am especially sick of that.

    Enjoying is now and the forefront, if it ain’t feeling good, I ain’t doing it. And that may sound very childish, but simply, I have had enough of hard. I want soft. I want fun.

  5. I am in a place right now where I am defining the end game. It hasn’t come into crystal clear focus yet but it is forming rapidly.

    Included elements … women, in community, safely sharing their stories.

    Thank you for this. More confirmation for where I am right now.

  6. Rachel Du Croz on said:

    It’s very true we loose focus on the end game for all the trees and shrubs and a good few weeds of the getting there. It is definitely worth taking the time to reconsider our telos.
    From one ancient historian to another thank you!!!

  7. This post was so beautiful – I love how other languages make things sound so musical and engaging. It was also poignant as I work to define my endgame. I recently realized I’ve spent three years “doing what I love” or so I thought. Really I was simply taking the journey with no shining destination to get to. So I’m working on what my endgame is, but so far I know it is a business that creates global citizenship by encouraging family travel at a young age, women traveling as a group to embrace their differences and the things that makes us all alike, and really just enjoying the life you are given! Thanks for the inspiration to keep working on it!

  8. Miss Bri on said:

    Hey Nona!
    Yay–I am so glad it spoke to you-defining+refining+tending to our end game is something that I feel can be of benefit to all of us and we can all get distracted from it too!

  9. Miss Bri on said:

    Katelyn, I agree with you-its tricky not to get caught up and lost in the journey and sometimes even that process is crucial for the end game to be clearly, beautifully defined.

  10. Miss Bri on said:

    Its so true Marita-one word in Greek=an entire sentence in English! Maybe the ancients were onto something…

  11. Miss Bri on said:

    Good for you Mel! That sounds like being super clear on your telos!

  12. Miss Bri on said:

    Oooh, I like your elements Cynthia and will be excited to see how they develop!

  13. Miss Bri on said:

    Ashley-I love it! And if your blog is any indication you are nailing your endgame :-)

  14. so true Bri! I agree that you need to know the destination at least direction. Most of the time I enjoy the transformation during the journey, and yes, sometimes I get distracted by the beauty of the journey that I postpone the arrival to the final destination (my book writing goal)
    Now I have to concentrate on the end result as I’m looking for a new place where to live though it would be happy if I can do it fast and effortlessly :)
    So my end game is to live in a beautiful place which I can easily afford.
    Thanks Bri for re-focusing!

  15. I LOVE this! Why do I do what I do? Because of hope and inspiration. Because I’m so lit up I couldn’t imagine doing anything else. Because I want to leave this place a little better than I found it. Because that’s something we all can do. And I want to show other people how.

  16. I’m always looking into root words and their meanings and am fascinated by it… so I really appreciated your post. I agree! You have to know exactly where you’re going, in order to have any hope of getting there! Of course, with this laser-focused purpose, you’ll truly enjoy the journey!